Christmas.. 2019..... and the End of a Decade

Today as the sun sets on the Red River we will almost close out a Decade of events..... I will have been retired from the Corrections Career almost 11 years.  Amazing how Time goes Faster and Faster Now.... That you read the Obits to see who has passed onto their Just Rewards.

Christmas here in the Lil City by the Red, is for returning family, of sisters and brothers from the far reaches of the USA, they are coming home to see Daddies and Mommas, etc... These Gay Brothers, these Lesbian Sisters... Later this afternoon, a blood family grows old and tired.... they usually migrate to the front porch of the Camp on the Red Bricks.... its an annual migration that last only fo.r a few hours.... I get to see all who came Home.

Also, its been an expectational, robust, meaningful period in my life... I have had a few setbacks, met a few crossroads, excelled in old categories from past employment of 40 years ago.... but all in all.. I am better off now.... than I was a decade ago... Time Marches On

My friendships seem to have taken on a in depth, deeper connection.  I have had friendships that have not held the test of time, they have fallen by the wayside.... However, the friendships that have endure, through thick and thin.... are closer, more connected than Ever.....

The Circle of friends has or is tighter, the ties that bind are more connective, the emotions that flow are genuine  and true..

2020 is on the horizon....... !!!!!

Yep... !!!!

Its been foggy each morning, heavy dew, about 48 degrees,.... Yep the long winter is here.... hopefully we have a mild one this year... nothing in the teens.... Louisiana is not prepared as the northern or western part of this Country.....

We are in the semi tropics..... For sure with the Global Warming.. or what ever is taking place in the upper stratosphere .....

The oranges, satsumas, and kumquats are making a lot of fruit this year..... I think it happens to be some type of effect on the statement above... I have been given more satsumas and oranges this year .. everybody has a bumper crop... and my Kumquat tree is loaded...


We are heading into the next three weeks of slow slow government ... on the local level that is....

But its will be ok....... time will roll on in about 16 days... and Yep... at this time everybody is fairly happy.

Sunday.. ....... Just a Nice Day

Yesterday.... Sunday.... was the Feast of the Immaculate Conception ....

At 632am CST I was born... in the Red Stick.....  to at that time considered older folks for having a child....

Its been a Journey.... and if you follow this blog ... You understand there has been Ups Downs and All Abounds...

My intentions were to go to Church  down the street for 8am Mass.... it didn't work out that way......

I laid in bed and gave it a deep thought for 5 minutes.... jumped out of bed... and text the seven neighbors that are the most close to me... two couples  of gay women, one str8 woman and one couple of gay men... .....

I told them to be at my home... for 945am and I would lay out Brunch...  Moet Chandon Nectar Imperial...home made sausage and biscuts..  and no orange juice.. please.

So, I cooked Brunch for Seven of my Close Friends... Giving back to Them on my Birthday.. for the Friendship that abounds on our Brick Street, here in the Lil'  City by the Red..

It's Late Tonight.... but I must write !!!!

I worked late today at the courthouse... it was a long day.... we had a CLE for our attorneys and other matters as usual were in play ..... just the common business of public service...........

As I pulled into my driveway here at the house.... a car drove up to the curb at the house.... I glanced into its direction... I saw the N on the plate which meant it was a rental....

C's father had told me in a conversation earlier in the week, when the father called for some advise..which I gave ... saying that C needed long term treatment and help.... that C had a rental car....

My heart begin to beat.. I knew it must be C... it was a split second .... I got out of the truck... and headed for my porch and front door.... C came up immediately ... and said Hey Tom.. I want to talk....

I knew at that moment, I had to make the decision .... was I to unlock the door and walk in or just sit down on the swing..... I was Not going to let C into my home....

It was a brief, but intense conversation ... C was high as a kite..he was rambling and spewing negative comments ...etc... I knew that I had to focus on several things.....

Keep C on the porch.. do not unlock my door...
Tell him that his troubles was His.... not mine.. not his father's
!...that I was in Therapy.. that I had no intention for any communication with Him.... Period.

I stuck to my beliefs ,,,, my therapy.... what it has taught me.. how I have developed and evolved.. !

C rambled ...Spewed a lot of Negative Chatter.... I told him he would not be allowed in my home... that He needed treatment and help... and he needed to resolve his Own Issues......

It was a very taxing 15 minute encounter.... C left in a huff... I then unlocked my door...and called some close neighbors....

I hope he doesn't return....  It's hard to see him so addicted... his wonderful mind is being eroded by substances...

It has been over 18 months since I last saw C... and he was High then.. as he was this late afternoon.

For someone You have loved.....and Still have deep deep emotions for.. But I had to say No...

No Today and No forEver.. ...  The End.

Its better to have to say No sometimes....

Yesterday I heard from my ex's father.....

The ex, the last man I dated for any length of time, was C... he was the attorney, Harvard and Yale.. Smart as any person I had ever met.

He also had his addiction.... which .. I won't go back over those episodes .... but enough was enough... it almost .... well let's just say ... I am better off now.... By My Self...

Yesterday.... C's father tried to reach me, since I don't answer my phone if I don't have the number listed in my phone book.. I didn't answer the call.... and I don't have voicemail on my cell phone..

I receive a text today from that number and the text was signed B.  ... that's C's father first letter of his first name...

I called him after I received his text..... C had fallen off the wagon again and so on and so on and so on.......

I had to tell C's father that ... he should get his son to some treatment centers, gave him some centers that I have found to be successful... ... but I didn't offer him any other words of encouragement ... there was no need... C's father and I have had many discussions.. C needs long term treatment... his brilliant mind will soon be mush if he doesn't get some help.... but (and there is always a but) C won't he thinks of his self as a brilliant person who can do it on his own...

and No I don't want to see or have any contact with C

O well.... I have a schedule session with my therapist and I am sure these lil' events will take up some of the time...

I'm ok.... and writing about it helps.... and I am very proud of where I am at this moment in time....

On Sunday I begin the trek or  slide to 70.... it will take a few years to get there.. But (and there is always a but) .... I hope to see 70... and hope to be fit and spry .. to still ride my mountain bike.. and beat a pack of 30 somethings on a downhill run... on the trails...

Monday All Day

Its Just Monday...........

That's about it