Rainin' Playin'.....

Raining Raining....

The last two weeks of July has been rain center here on the Lil' City by The Red.... each afternoon we have a had some gully washers for sure...... it kicks the humidity up to 100%, bringing the temps down to the lower 90s..... makes for a steam bath for sure....

The coming year, in Feb.  2017, I will have owned my home for 20 years, I am the second owner of the home.... having purchased it from the original family who built it in 1925.... yes, the second owner....

And there is a story behind that ....

In 1994, there was a local architect who owned a building that contained seven apartments, the local architect was at that time about 80 years old, his companion, lover, devotee lived in one of the apartments also..... I moved into the building and occupied apartment number 7.

During those three years, I developed a friendship with the architect, Mr. BA and his companion HP

Mr. BA was a recognized, award winning architect, having started his practice in 1948, right in the beginning of the mid century modern era.  Mr. BA was noted for his use of half walls and the use of shutters as doors, and his use of light in his design of homes.

Mr. BA's lover, was a man who I will call, Mr. HP.   Mr. HP was a local banker, lived in apartment number 2 and Mr. BA lived in apartments number 3/4.  Mr BA and Mr. HP grew up together, having lived within a block of each other.  As I came to know them, you could see the sparkle in BA's eyes when we sat down to supper as HP was telling a story of how they maneuver through  the social mores' of the late 1930s and on..... into the 50s, 60s, 70s, and on......

These two men were lovers, but they lived in a time, where, if you chose to live in the deep deep South, one had to maintain a confidential, secret love... nothing was open...

So,  not to bring disgrace upon their families, each man didn't live together, but always lived close to each other.... they had had a friendship-relationship for almost all of their 70+ years....

Anyway.... Mr. BA took me for a ride one Sunday afternoon and we visited some of his homes he had designed and built.... then we came upon this home... at the conveyance of Albert Street and 18th Street.... we walked in and Mr BA began to tell a story of growing up here....

After some pondering, Mr BA turned to me and said..... I'm going to sale my family home, it was built by my parents in 1925, and I am selling it to you..... I have decided that  you will  buy my house, the one that I grew up in.... BA knew that I was looking to purchase a home, he just made the command decision ...  I accepted

So, since Feb 2017 I have been the owner of BA's home, the one he grew up in, the one that HP and him played in the back yard in, I walk the neighborhood that BA and HP rode bicycles in. HP only lived two blocks down the same street... They went to grammar and high school together, went off to college together, came home and made a life together... but lived separately .....

I still think of BA and HP..... I still see the twinkle in each other's eyes as we sat down to supper...

I wonder sometimes.... if BA and HP played in the Rain.... I bet they Did......

Wondering and Wandering..... We each have our own ways.... but ... we are connected..

I'm having a lil down moment.... not bad... but a lil bit.... a friend showed me C on one of those apps for the iPhone ... he was 48 miles away... must have found himself a guy... all ready... hmmmm

I know, I know, .... let him go.... I have to the most extent...I tend to think he might come to his senses... the gut says he is not... the mind hopes....

I have booked the Omni in SA, as I usually do, its close to the Dr's office and its close to a few good cafes, sushi places, and the all encompassing Tex Mex.... I had to book an extra night on the front end to get the rate and room I wanted... So, I am leaving/arriving  on a Sunday, wandering around SA on Monday, and see the Dr on Tuesday, heading back that day...

I am not sure if I am going to have someone go with me.... I might just go alone, as I have in the past.. it really gives me time to think on the open road, to rehash things about my personal life, to think privately out loud about my life in general.. both personally and professionally... I can talk to myself.... play the radio, turn around when I see something of interest,..... driving alone does have its advantages..

Let me Ramble .. a lil bit......

As I read the blogs I have on my reading list, one I have maintained a friendship online, seen twice or maybe three times, email occasionally, for the last, maybe, almost,  16 years.. .. really...yep... I think its been almost that long.... then, I have a new friendship, from a blog writer, he as the other guy lives in the West.. we tend to email also, every once in a while, ... I enjoy very much these friendships .. I enjoy seeing the similarities and then seeing the opposite to, reading the points of view, understanding that we share a common bond .... all being gay.... we are certainly individuals tho.... each very independent...yes there is a theme of independence among us three...

Poor C.... maybe he should try to achieve some of that Independence for himself......

A lil Sweating is Ok..

Wow.... time Flies when you are having things happen.

So its been 12 days... not a record for not posting but a lot has happened....

The new company, which is a corrections based advisory firm is doing fairly well, we have picked up several law firms and one public account.  Now has any money been made... well... a lil bit...

I see how difficult it is to begin winning trust in clients, when you work for the govt, the trust is almost automatically there.. just base on your time of service and your credentials ... when you out on your own... you have your credentials...your integrity .. that is about it... and then .. then.... its how much is your advise going to cost.....the All Mighty Dollar.....

On the personal front..... from time to time I mourn a lil bit for C.... maybe more than a lil bit.... but as time passes... I wanted to make contact... but I believe he is still in his world...

My hope one day, is that he emerges from his world, and knocks on my door...

Just have to see......

My semi annual trip to SA is coming up, in August...for the prostate check....

I did recently have to be admitted to the ER for a bout of prostatitis, presently on Flagyl and Cipro... I know..... high powered !!!! getting that infection out of that prostate... So I've been sweating out the poison and infection...

Its HOT..... temp wise that is.... HOT HOT ....

You sweat walking to get the morning paper......   a lil sweating all the way around.

Just Today.......

Today.... its Hot... Sweaty... It's Louisiana in Mid July.


Today... I begin another opportunity, I have formed a company, its a corrections based performance oriented business.. our first client is the parish district attorney's office....

Today.. I was asked to draw up  discussion points for an interview for the DA, with the local newspaper, its a Gannett owned paper.... big step....

Today.... I still retain my position with the city govt of Alexandria....

Today... could be a crossroads cause of politic forces .........

Today ..... I'm satisfied that I can provide professional services to either organization... but ( and the there is always a But) .. not sure if I can stay out of the politic fray in this hot Louisiana Climate..

Today.. ... on this fray.. won't be of my choosing ....

Maybe One Day.....

Its Saturday Morning here in the Deep Deep South......  its already 87 with the feels like temp of 93 at 823am


This is day Seven..... no moan... no word.... did I expect any....well... not really.... but i wanted some.

When you have to make a stand in life.. you must make it very firm... it doesn't need a lot of discussion.... no need to talk about the feelings, no need to search the emotions....

Just make the decision and be firm... about it... really ... sometimes in life I think we tend to want to discuss, talk, reason, think, feel the other person.....

My life as a Warden for 30 years...taught me ... there really isn't a lot of discussion, if any, about Life's decisions ... actions are such,  that one must just step up, say the lest few words possible....!!

I did that seven days ago.... decisions are based on the actions of a person, those actions sometimes demand immediate and swift action.. ... so be it...

Wardens are taught .. don't stand around.. make the decision and ................... Live with it...

I did.....

I broke my heart doing it.... but I did make the decision...

One day.... maybe one day..... he will understand and Correct the Way his Life is Going...his Life... himself .... One Day....

Its Hot.. Its Torrid... Its Louisiana

Its July here in the deep deep South....

Let me say that again.. its July.... its Hot.....

The humidity is hovering at 75% with the heat index today at 106 degrees....

It makes for a nice steam bath when u walk outside at 6am to get the paper and its already 85 degrees...

We still have the hottest months to go... August and September... hmmmm.....

Its Hot ..... its Torrid... Its Louisiana in July....

Maybe

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thinking is the optimum word here.