We are in the middle of our August Heat Wave, but its really the end of July.
Yesterday, it was 98 degrees at 5 pm, 95 degrees at 8 pm, ..with humidity hovering at about 75 to 80 percent..makes for a grueling day.
So, if the trend continues, August and September are going to scorchers. I have friends coming to New Orleans in mid August for two conventions. They are from up North... Too Bad that they will smother .. sweat at two steps out the door of the hotel... drank more beer than the law allows... and be damn glad to board that plane back to Chicago or where ever they are from.. above the Mason Dixon Line.
Its just Louisiana... in the last throws of an Indian Summer... its just early this year.
On to another topic....
This morning I got a call from my former partner who lives up in the DC area. He has been through a lot in the recent months. John seems to make poor choices in life. He has bounced around from one relationship to another over the last 18 years that I have known him. I was his first relationship, he was young, just out of rehab, I was some what young, but heading into my early 30s, leaving a failed marriage, so we both had our baggage.
As we grew to love each other, we had good times, turbulent good times, piss poor times, but all in all it was a growing adventure for both of us. Our careers got in the way, we were both doing well, he had just graduated from the flag ship university after a stint in the Navy and I was well on my way up the career ladder in the doc.
Basically his career in landscape architecture was leading him to a life in a big city. Well the inevitable happened, I got a job offer to move up to where I presently live at, he got a job offer to move to H Town.
We tried to hold it together, but you can't have a long distance relationship without some parameters and goals to rejoin.
We broke up.
He then went on from H Town to Big D then headed out to DC all with different men. He was searching for something, I really don't know what. We keep in touch through out the years, John telling me how this lover and that lover was going to do this and that for him. But each one was just didn't turn out how John planned it. They all went bust. The last two, were the worst. John let them suck all his money from his inheritance out of him.
Then in the last recent months, John develops cancer of the stomach, goes through a lot of crap..figurative, maybe actually ..but the partner he is with now, seems to be trying to get rid of him, abuse him. John has had the ability to choose badly, or let what he thinks is love take hold only to have his expectations diminished with reality.
So, today I got a call from John. Telling me of his dilemma and just needing some support.
As much as you care for a person, we all make our own path in life to some extent. Critical decisions are made over time.
I have offered in the recent past for John to come back to La. His mother and father are now passed, all except one sibling is passed, a sister is the only one and she lives about 125 miles from here. His sister must care for a mental challenged child. So she can only give limited support to him.
I do know that I care for him very much. I know that I can in time help him and give him that stable environment where he could get back on his feet.
But will John come home....